I’ve been trying to figure out how to write this for a while now. Well, here goes.
With social media, blogs, Twitter, Facebook status updates and every other tool that is readily available to broadcast your life, anonymity really is a thing of the past for those of us narcissistically whoring ourselves out in the public eye.
Those that follow us on social networks know intimate details about our lives, relationships, and even our business dealings.
But sometimes, there’s some shit you don’t wanna post on your Facebook Wall or Twitter. Nobody wants to write… “Ah shit, grandma is shooting black tar heroin again” or… “Uncle Jimmy just got out of the joint last night.”.
There’s some things that you just want to keep to yourself. Some things are better left unsaid.
Then there’s some things you just have to say because to not mention it is too freaking odd and confusing for everyone else. Even I’m confused and it’s my freaking life.
I’m confused because I am parting ways from the best woman I’ve ever known. She’s just incredible. Sweet, caring, talented, beautiful, selfless, and more. I could continue with flattering adjectives until my hands cramped up.
Despite being the coolest chic on the planet, Kameron and I came to the realization that we are not perfect life partners for each other over the long haul. We are totally different people. Diametric opposites. North Pole, South Pole different.
I like the sun and light, she likes the Celtic dungeon basement vibe. I like to surf and hang outside, she likes to nestle up in her safe coup inside. I like sports and ESPN, and she digs medical shows (I refuse to watch medical shows). I wanna go West, she wants to go East to Ireland.
And every bit of that is okay.
We both want each other to be true to ourselves and seek out that which will truly make us happy. What’s confusing is that we make each other so happy 99% of the time. So safe. So blessed. We don’t argue and bicker like most couples. In fact, we both thought we had the most healthy relationship of anyone we knew. But there was something still slightly missing.
I’ll always love Kameron. And I know she will always feel the same. For the last couple weeks we’ve been trying to go through this break up in the most mature way possible. It’s actually been kinda weird. Funny weird and a good kind of awkward.
So awkward that we’ve even created the idea of a “Breakup BBQ”. She thinks it’s a hot idea. Others agree. Maybe we could create a new trend?
I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me, or Kameron. We don’t consider this a failed relationship. In fact, we feel just the opposite. We both benefitted from each others company in a special way that neither of us would change. We grew so much because of each other. I’ m so proud of her. And so thankful for her presence.
As you can see, it’s kind of tough to release something you are so fond of. But it’s the right thing to do. We want to preserve the great relationship we have now by making sure we stay true to ourselves and seek out that which we really desire.
Me, I want to travel and screw off. Kameron not so much 🙁
I really didn’t want to have to make this blog post, but I’ve always been so open with my readers, I thought ya’ll should know. Most of you already know how darn awesome Kameron is from my blog posts, Twitter updates, or via Facebook.
Or maybe you’ve used her services at http://www.trendyebook.com or http://www.queenofmedia.com
The cool thing is, she’ll still be around. We still have a business together. We are still friends and love each other. (and not in that…. “Lets just be friends” kind of way). While we may not be perfect marriage material for each other, I want her on my side forever.
One of the things that attracted both of us to each other was how we both had good relationships with our exes. I think it says alot about someone when the majority of the exes still have a favorable opinion of them. I could have no fonder appreciation for everything Kameron has done for me during the last two years. It’s been the best two years of my life and I almost feel selfish wanting more.
Loving you forever,
Jason
Jason, I am so sorry to hear that man. 🙁
I was just thinking about the online break-up today. I think that you are very brave to continue to be open online in the face of heartache. I have had a number of very public relationships begin, grow & end. Now I have a relationship with a boy that I have kept to myself & perhaps chose because he’s not online.
I wish you and Kameron the best as your relationships changes shape and you learn to love each other in this new context.
Hey, I said no feeling sorry!
Thx though.
Hey Jason,
I know how you feel, I’m actually in a very similar situation right now with a 7 year relationship.
It is hard when you know that you may not be the best one for her, no matter how much you want to be.
Worry not my friend, all things fall into their rightful place when we least expect it.
now THAT’s how to do an online announcement right. it’s always a crappy part of our future lives- but all the best to both of you!
Dude… you are the coolest. And Kameron is the coolest as well. Don’t need to tell the whole story …. but I can say “I get it”… I get all of what you wrote. And it is sad and it is beautiful at the same time.
… then My Man (you met him over a year ago…) came along. Blink. The pieces that fit so perfectly are there…. but I made some hard choices along the way to get here. It’s all good. Its good to be in love when you have practiced truly how to love.
Thanks for putting this up for the web world to see… cuz most people talk about all the ugliness. It doesn’t have to be that way and everyone grows from realizing the beauty, the lessons, the love that grows out of realizing ….. sometimes going your separate ways is BIG love.
Wag!
Hey Jason,
While I don’t know you that well, we’ve swapped lots of messages and spoken a few time and I was aware of your relationship with Kameron. I think it’s awesome how you guys are treating it cause life is WAY too short to totally kill great relationships.
If we’re lucky, it can be a pretty long life and every deserves to spend it with their soul mate. It’s big of you guys to face the facts and keep searching. The break-up party is a great idea! Why not do that man.
Chin up and chest out bro, you guys are both going to be awesome!
Jason.
First of all, thanks for the honesty and guts to put it all out here for all to see. Not easy.
As one who has remained friends with some ex girlfriends, it feels good to see that you and Kameron are remaining friends and business partners.
I have relationships that turned into friendships that are older than you have lived and believe me, it’s worth it to remain friends that stay in touch through the years and decades.
You might be amazed at how rewarding this friendship becomes as the years race by.
Best wishes to you both.
Bruce Arnold
Jason, Appreciate you letting us in on your life. Your positive energy affects us all in a truly awesome way. You are a true Soul Rebel! Appreciate you and you life and what you give everyone online and offline. It shows in your relationships online and offline with people in general. Keep on Keeping on brother!
Shane Hale
Jason, Appreciate you letting us in on your life. Your positive energy affects us all in a truly awesome way. You are a true Soul Rebel! Appreciate you and you life and what you give everyone online and offline. It shows in your relationships online and offline with people in general. Keep on Keeping on brother!
Shane Hale
Hey J-Mo thanks for sharing. you are a lucky man.
Your candor is so refreshing.
Hey Jason,
I don’t know Kameron but she sounds like a wonderful woman, and you are doing a very powerful thing to make a decision to let her live her life. And thank you for sharing it with us. It is weird that our lives become so available to everyone and that our personal issues are shared. The upside is the care and connection you feel from others when you are going through a difficult time. You get to realize how many friends you have, even those that you rarely see in person.
Lots of love to both of you!
Wendi
What an amazing way for you two to approach it in this way. Mad props to you both! Most of the time it ends in a big fight and disappointment, however, most of the time both parties are really immature and just focus on the bad.
May more good come to you both 🙂
I went through a very similar situation about a month ago. The break up conversation lasted all of 15 or 20 mins. We both expressed our feelings came to a mutual agreement. I had seen it coming for a months.
It hasn’t always been easy. In fact sometimes its quite awkward and painful, but I appreciate that fact that we were able to part ways in a mature and kind way.
I feel comforted hearing that someone else went through a very similiar situation. Thanks for being open and honest Jason.
You da man MoFo… Love your perspectives TOGETHER on this 🙂
Now, let’s go make a friggin’ sign.
Wow Jason. You putting your story out there is amazing. I went through a similar situation with my husband several months ago ~ mutual decision, still have a business together and decided to remain great friends. Though at times difficult and sometimes gut twisting, I believe that there are no coincidences or accidents in the Universe.
The true intention of our spirit is to be joyful and to create experiences. How blessed both you and Kameron are to have each other in your lives, in whatever form it has, is or will take. While I am not a real believer in “soul mates”, it takes an unconditional love to allow a relationship to evolve for the greater joy of both parties. There is no greater gift you can give to each other than non-judgemental, unconditional love.
I don’t feel sorry for you Jason, but do sense a level of pain and loss in your words. Not that you asked for any, but if I were to give any advice ~ it would be that when you feel that twist in your gut, try to replace it with thoughts and feelings of gratitude…
Peace, D~
You are one lucky dude.
Sorry to hear this JMo. Met her at MC & she was lovely. We are all going thru some rough stuff right now. (At least a lot of the people I am close to). Thanks for sharing as it makes you all the more real to follow. See ya soon Jason.
Li
Hi Jason,
I’ve had this thought in the back of my head to get in touch for a couple of weeks, just felt like making contact for some reason just to say hello. Now I know why.
What you’ve written here is brilliant, and you should consider it the best example out there of how 2 intelligent, caring people can see what’s best for each other and can behave in a mature and dignified manner.
Sharing this the way you have just bumps my respect for you up another notch. Very, very well said.
Cheers,
Nez
Jason,
My thoughts and empathy are with you. I do not feel sorry for you, as you asked us not to in your post. I just want you to know that I can understand the tough time you are having with this.
It good to know that you and Kameron are doing the best for the both of you. I’m pleased that you are able to part as friends. That’s something to admire.
Thank-you for sharing Jason.
You are both in my thoughts, I’ll send you both good healing energy. You will look back on this with love and happiness I’m sure. And you will still be there as true friends forever.
Cheers….Amanda van der Gulik…Excited Life Enthusiast!
Having couchsurfed at your place, I can honestly say that one of the 1st things I noticed was Kam. You guys are so cute together, and your summary of positive adjectives that can keep going, is a very accurate description. I’d even go as far as to say that I’m a bit jealous (until I am reminded of the Celtic Dungeon thing… ’cause as you know, I like outdoors, and travel, etc… screw that safety stuff). It was a bit weird being there right as the shit was hitting the fan, but seeing how you guys handled it was amazing…. just another piece of the story of “Why J-Mo is one of the most interesting people I’ve met”- though, credit goes to both of you… for the humor, understanding, and creativity. That breakup BBQ is brilliant. Wish I was still in town for that (Though, that Bacon Explosion that I left you to drive 2 days for was friggin awesome!).
I’m thrilled that you’re getting on the road, and seeking adventures. I’m thrilled that you guys are such great friends still. No pitty in this e-mail, just pride and admiration. There’s so few AMAZING people on the planet, that it’s a shame when they fall farther from each other… and you guys didn’t do that. Anyways- who knows what the future holds. I met you both, and you’re both go getters (though, in your own unique ways 😀 ) – you will both find… er… continue to find happiness, in the way that most people are too lazy or uncool to find.
To happiness-
Hey Jason, sorry to hear you are breaking up, but it sounds like you have some really exciting plans for your life in the near future. Best of luck to you and hopefully we’ll be in touch real soon.
Jason… again?
That sucks.
So I was bored…
I re-read the comment
you posted on 11/02/2007
talking about that breakup.
Back then you mentioned…
We are 2 totally different people.
[…]We are diametrically polar opposites[…]
And now this regarding Kami…
We are totally different people.
Diametric opposites.
North Pole, South Pole different.
. . .
Look man, I’m not here
to preach or come across
like an a$$hole.
But I see a pattern that
probably needs to be
broken once and for all…
God speed and be well.
Hey Jason, what a powerful post you shared here. I’m very impressed at your courage and transparency with your life experiences. Kudos to you.
And it seems like you know exactly what you want and even though 99% of the time, you and her are good, you’re both wise to know that you really deserve 100%.
It can be a bitter sweet experience, but just knowing you’re being the most of you and she’s being the most of her, that is more love that staying together and ‘setting’ or ‘compromising’.
You are a wonderful soul and feels like she is as well. You are both on an incredible journey of fulfillment and excitement!
Stay blessed.
😀 PEACE 😀
Jared
@Alex ~ I wasn’t aware 2 women were enough to form a “pattern”.
I know this is an old post but I wanted to thank you for posting this. As I’m going through my own break up with my girl. This post is helping me pull through.
Thank you,
Carl